It’s not about not being nice anymore, it’s about becoming “integrated.” And in addition to all of that, they also find it difficult to set boundaries.īut here’s something we really should make clear before we go much further: recovery from what Glover terms Nice Guy Syndrome is absolutely not about becoming the complete opposite. What’s more, Nice Guys can become passive-aggressive in their behavior, venting their frustration and resentment. They crave appreciation or some other reciprocation in return. Sometimes, they might appear to be generous, but in reality, they never give if they don’t also expect to get. To achieve what they want, Nice Guys can be dishonest, secretive, manipulative, and controlling. You see, calling these men “Nice Guys” is a bit of a misnomer. But is that such a bad thing?Īctually, yes. Okay, so many men have one or two of these traits, but Nice Guys? Well, they seem to have a considerable number. Typical traits of Nice Guys include letting their partners manage everything, doing anything for anyone, avoiding conflict, telling people who work for them exactly what they want to hear, avoiding rocking the boat and as a consequence getting walked over, never saying no, being dependable and reliable, suppressing their feelings … the list goes on and on, but you get the picture. If you’re listening to/reading this, chances are that you think you’re one too.
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